No matter how yappy he was, unless he actually physically took the wheel, he bears no responsibility for the accident. She let herself get out of control.
This is part of the problem, why we codepedents need al-anon. It's a matter of accepting responsibilities for our choices and actions-just as the alcoholic needs to accept responsibilities for his.
Originally Posted by
Fandy 
I went back and read your original starting post...
here is a different spin on the situation...
shouldn't HE be the one to feel some guilt and REMORSE for contributing to this accident? If he had kept his yappy mouth shut, you would not have jerked the wheel and had a serious accident.
Now you are left with the aftermath of insurance deductible, no transportation, possible increase in rates and having to buy a new car....what does he get??? besides a chance to spew more verbal diarrhea....? with friends like that who needs enemies?