Originally Posted by
Shellcrusher 
I know there are many kids from split homes that are doing much better off with their parents apart than together. I guess that's why it's really a loss/loss.
This one can be debated based on how each person views their end result. It's a tough one, wanttobehealthy.
In my situation, the effects of living with the alcoholic severely impacted my ability to be a good parent. I didn't recognize it at the time, but in hindsight I can see it.
So, at least in my case, having one relatively sane parent present for most of the time was much better than having two insane parents 100% of the time.
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