There's absolutely nothing wrong with YOU
for not wanting intimacy
with someone you can't trust
or may not respect right now.
You have the right to say no.
This bears repeating.
You have the RIGHT to say no. And I say you have the OBLIGATION to care for yourself. If the answer is no, it's no. No hard feelings, not for lack of care for your H be he "R" or "A" or "X", but because you just aren't there right now. That's okay.