Yes.
I got a job not a week after I got sober.
I had to train for the job three times over
the next six months.
I couldn't remember anything.
Coming off alcohol
is coming off a sedative.
The nervous system doesn't know HOW to respond
any more
and has to be re-taught.
He may think he was coping
while under the influence
but he wasn't.
Now the sedative is gone
and the illusion with it.
We call the other thing you're describing
(the hiding away in the house)
"isolating".
The world is just too damn big and fast
and the only safe place
is inside the house.
It's the only thing that we can control.
ALso -
a fixation of videos
watching the same movie over and over again
like chain smoking for the brain
is common
because that is also
a controlled
predictable environment.
This man needs outside help.
Period.
No one.
NO ONE
can go this alone.
You obviously have a computer
he can check here
or on the AA.ORG WEBSITE
for meetings
and you can do the same.
I don't see either of you being able to do this
with no outside help.
I know for a fact that people in AA
arrange for rides all the time.
It's called service work.
If you live too far 'out'
there can be arrangements made
to meet halfway
or part of the way.
You'll be amazed how far they'll go
to help another alcoholic.
Neither of you are trained couselors
and both of you might well need one.
I'm glad youv'e found SR
and I'm glad to see you posting.
I hope you'll use the resources here
to educate yourselves about alcoholism
and use every link here
to find answers.
But finding help in real life is important.