Originally Posted by
Ladybug0130 I was completely stressed, trying to rush my son through his meal and eyeing the door because I was panicked my drunk hubby would walk in and do something crazy. We didn't get to dance, have cake, or anything fun. I was so mad because as a mother of two young kids, I don't get to go out for fun very often and this was supposed to be a big night for us.
I will never have a night like that again though, I will tell you that much.
Oh, Ladybug... your post made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. My last big "bottom" was a wedding incident too. One of my best friends from HS... we had travelled 6 hrs to be there... and it all went so terribly wrong. The whole thing was supposed to be so happy, and now her wedding day is a big fat blackeye in my memory.
We have a wedding this weekend. I'm sitting this one out. I'm done doing weddings with my STBXAH. They are an opportunity for him to get out of control drunk, and a source of stress and anxiety for me.
And back on topic... I've had several "bottoms" along my journey. One of the big ones got me into Al-anon, the last one got me to an attorney's office. I think bottoms are great motivators for change.