XABF has always been convinced that me stating how I feel (kindly) is abusing him, while him screaming and yelling at me and telling me I'm worthless and throwing things is okay because "he didn't mean it."
The world according to XABF:
Honesty = Abusive; Lies = Good!
or, to put it in different terms:
StarCat = Wrong; XABF = God
And to think I actually used to believe his stories!