I didn't want to divorce my husband either but had to. My sobriety depended on it, I was afraid of being with him financially, legally (he was growing pot) in Va. !, and it was hard. Now 4 yrs. later it is just a dull ache. We had no kids together and there is no contact. At first I was 95% sad. Now I am 95% ok. My therapist said my integrity got me out. Now I live with my 2 cats and bird and am retired from teaching and working partime. I go to alot of meetings and do service work for AA. It gets better but at first was like a friend described "like surgery with a hacksaw."
