Girl, you know you didn't cause this! What a load was lifted off of me when I finally realized I could stop trying to get to the root of the problem or quit trying to figure out what his triggers were...and I will never forget a particularly honest conversation we were having (which, of course, he couldn't handle), when he said, "I wasn't even thinking about beer tonight, but now this conversation is making me want to drink.". To which I replied, "No, you want to drink because you're an alcoholic!". Finally understanding and calling a spade a spade was so freeing, and he's never said anything like that again, because somewhere deep down inside, he knows I'm right. So don't ever forget it...he drinks because he's an alcoholic...end of story...