I have to say I have been trying to go no contact myself and it had been very very difficult. Contacted him today like crazy actually. I've been feeling very weak and facing hard times in my family life. For me, the xabf is my closest and most trusted friend, somebody I've actually grown up with since birth and I really needed to make contact for my own personal sanity. Based off of what I read for you though, your situation seems quite different than mine. It seems like you have the support of friends and family and you have already built up a happy and stable life away from the x. He may be the one pushing for contact more than you are? I think if that is the case for you it would be appropriate to let him have some time to sort his life out. Even though he might not like going no contact and it will be very painful, it will ultimately help get through this better I think