I know I personally couldn't go 'no contact' unless he thought it was best. I would just try to detach emotionally and have really clear boundaries. If that is too tough then yes, no contact would be best.
I can't imagine it would be easy. I think sometimes folks who go NC are too hard on themselves if they break contact, beat themselves up and a new cycle and entanglement with the alcoholic starts. I would go no contact when I know I am ready for it and it is the best thing and I could manage it.
For me it is about having boundaries. If I want to talk, fine, if it is too painful, I find other things to do. But no contact works if you need to really be free and clear of him in your life as he sorts out his. Nothing is easy, it is such an individual process but maybe the idea is to work
towards no contact. When you are really ready, I think you will know what to do and how to handle it
