Things had been slowly progressing worse in the last 2 years. About a year ago he lost his job. It was very rocky last summer and it was 6 months before he got a chance to return. I really thought that things would get better during this period but instead they got worse. I decided in December that I was going to leave him but could not right at the minute as our dd was having a spinal fusion in January. The final tipping point for me was when he could barely make time to come visit us at the hospital because he would rather be at home drinking. When we returned home I told him he needed to find somewhere else to stay I was filing for divorce. He ended up going on a drinking binge and got another dui.