Hard on the kids to see daddy go to jail. Harder on the kids to not have daddy face the consequences of his actions, gets worse and dies early. Maybe jail is the wake up call he needs to find real recovery and if you pay his attorney you could be standing in the way of it. It would be VERY hard for me not to pay the fees but I am becoming a firm believer in let go and let God, let the A's face the consequences and keep the focus on your own recovery.