Originally Posted by
zrx1200R 
Perhaps they only way they ever change is when we finally pack up our crap and leave. Then it hits them. They change. And become the person we fell in love with. But they spend the rest of their life with someone else. That is how I see it.
Possibly. This is part of the whole fiasco that bothers me the most.
But the other alternative is they die an early and lonely death and everyone around them is secretly relieved to see them go.
FL - your husband sounds crazy. If he's an alcoholic and he sounds crazy - he's probably hitting the booze pretty hard. Or maybe he is sober and you are seeing the uncovering of a mental disorder. Either way - does this sound rational to you now that you have typed it all out?