Welcome... I too am new around here. Our situations are similar, I too am married to an AH and we have 3 kids. My AH also drinks in the garage and sneaks alcohol when we are at other homes. My AH is getting more and more reclusive and less and less involved with the family as his illness has progressed. I reached a point of being so tired, frustrated, and lonely I had to get help for me. I just started going to Alanon a few months ago (really helps but I have a long way to go) and have also been working with a therapist for 8 months. My AH has never had the length of sobriety yours has *sigh* so I can only imagine how difficult and disappointing that is.
Currently I am just working on me and trying to get as healthy as I can so that I can make the best decisions for me and out kids. This site is a real eye opener for me.
The support here is great.