Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
I guess the biggest question is do you want to get married?
Congrats on the pregnancy-- are you looking fwd to being a Dad?
Re marriage, I love this woman - our relationship is more than I would have ever thought possible (then again, I staggered through life from college to 44). But the honest answer is to say that the larger part is for the childs benefit and that's how I was raised. You get a girl pregnant, that's what you do if you have a shred of decency in you.
We have only known for about three weeks. We went for the first OBG visit on monday, and thats when it really sunk in, watching the ultrasound. I am hopeful, and scared. At our ages (she is in her 40s) the rate of miscarriages in the first tri is really high. And about my sobriety, it's like the difference between walking on a line painted on the floor and walking a tightrope without a net. The stakes of my sobriety are no longer mine alone to bear. I really haven't adjusted to all this means - but I trust that it will work out if I remain honest, open and willing.