In recovery I realized how immature I was most of my life. It was quite a humbling experience: I had considered myself to be a mature adult! My expectations and demands of others, especially my family, were self-centered and childish. It is beyond my comprehension how my husband could have put up with me all those years...
I don't know if drinking stunted my emotional growth...but maybe growing up in a very dysfunctional family never gave me the opportunity to grow and learn to be responsible. I am not blaming, but just acknowledging. I didn't start serious drinking until my late 20's...But even back then, when I was reaching the age of 30, I didn't feel like an adult.