I wonder if this is along the same lines of what I've gotten - the 'wait out the first year before doing anything drastic' line. That the first year in recovery can be life-changing. 6 months in and I see not much changing except that he is sober (so he says), which in itself is a miracle. But no real behavior changes and a whole lot of anger (especially at me). Makes me wonder what he was so damn angry about before I came along?!
And therapists can be just as sick or sicker than their clients. I take what is said with a big dose of "take what works and leave the rest"