Originally Posted by barb dwyer

I am a double winner
a recovering alcoholic

and I can attest to the roller coaster that first year is.
Everyone anywhere NEAR me
got sucked in and dragged at least a little ways down the track.

there's no rule that says
anyone has to go through that first year
joined at the hip with anyone else.

some people manage it better
in separate domiciles during that time
and I've seen the whole 'halfway house' setup
work for a few.

This will be YOUR first year of recovery as well.

like my friend Betty Davis used to say -
"buckle your seatbelts... it's going to be a bumpy ride."

What we focus on here in F&F
is what do we need to do
to keep our OWN train on the track
and sometimes it's
where the heck did I leave my own track anyhow?

So it's not about what we can to do keep them stopped.

It's about where did *I* go in all this
and how do I get *me* back.
When did whatever he does change my entire world.

And we try to lend support
while we find that place again.

Sometimes it works out that it can't be done
with two trains under the same roof.