I don't feel much anger anymore. As my therapist pointed out- I was angry through most of my marriage. It feels good to not feel that way anymore.
I recently spoke to my AH about his father who passed away a few months ago.
He said he was conflicted about how he felt about him.
The "old me" would have said-"Focus on the good memories and hopefully there are more good than bad."
The "new me" said-"You have every right to feel all the emotions you feel about him. You can miss him, be angry at him, be resentful, be sad." Its when you don't let yourself feel those things that you get in trouble."
We have every right to feel angry at the situation and sometimes I just let myself. This usually calls for listening to Pink, Alanis Morrisette, Janice Joplin. Then I move on to something else.