I'm enjoying this thread. Maybe I'm different because I was raised by a feminist single mother, but AW and I never got wrapped up in this. I do what I'm willing and able to do around the house and she does the same. Some of those things are consistent with stereotypical roles (I fix things, take out the garbage, and take care of the cars, she cooks and cleans the bathroom), and others are not (I do laundry and clean the kitchen, and until she began drinking she did the finances).
That said, when she relapsed recently she decided to do my laundry for me. Guilt laundry. Good God. I prefer sober and doing my own laundry.
Cyranoak