Originally Posted by
lillamy 
I was raised to take care of and support myself and to never ever expect anything from a man. And I still ended up married to an A.
I hear ya. And, don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to blame my life choices on my mother, or society. I know they were my choices, and I take full responsibility for that.
I'm just fascinated to discover some of the feelings I had that made it hard to leave were probably ingrained in me as beliefs at a very young age.
Stuff like feeling it was "my job" to make the marriage work and failure to do so was, well......failure. I never believed that
intellectually, but man did it ever knock me down
emotionally.
L