Originally Posted by
Florence 
So I don't know, it's not clear cut, and I guess I had this picture in my mind of what alcoholism looks like, and it's uber-dramatic with DUIs and arrests and abuse and blah, and I also had this picture in my mind of what the spouse looks/feels like, and I'm not experiencing that either. .
Same here. The alcoholic in my life seems mild compared to the others here. He's not abusive to me at all. More self destructive in my opinion. But, even so, the relationship can still be draining. Sometimes I feel more like a parent than a partner.