Originally Posted by
Eight Ball 
She did however explain that my AH verbal abuse is part of his own personal moral behaviour and alcohol only increases that but does not cause it.
THIS! This is what I am pondering this week. How much of the behaviors are actually
caused by alcohol versus being
exacerbated by it.
Is my RAH really a clueless idiot who is truly unable to have any kind of intimate relationship? Or was the alcohol abuse a convenient avoidance tactic?
Letting go is hard - but there does come a point when there are no more options left. I feel as if I am reaching that point myself. No more options. Tried everything. I like to hope its my HP guiding me toward something greater than this marriage has been.