I've been searching the internet for success stories...talking with RA's and their spouses and significant others...and basically hear the same thing Cyranoak posted. I am still married but live separately. My RAH is about 6 months sober...and it is a looooong journey. Silly me, I thought he could just "quit drinking" and everything would go back to the way I wanted it to be.
Instead I am learning to embrace a lifestyle. I am not sure I want it - so just taking it one day at a time.
To me now, a success story is so much more than people who stayed together. Al-Anon and SR have taught me that.