It's not wise to worry about 'ever again'
when you're up to the eyes in a crisis situation.
Finding out your partner is a perv is horriffic.
I know.
I've been there.
DOn't expect his family to do anything that even hints
like being on your side
because if they treat this with anything BUT denial
'
it means they had a hand in making him what he is.
They will never do that.
See -
they're not protecting him
they're protecting themselves.
Stay here in the moment.
Stay right here.
WHat needs to be done right now?
Let ever again take care of itself.
Be right here.
I you would do well
to find a support group
of some sort
whether Alanon
or a support group
for survivors of sexual abuse
(believe it or not they exist -
you can find out by contacting the local mental health center)
It reads to me
as if you need to change
your resource circle.
You've had to rely on his family for a long time
and now it's time
to find a healthier circle of support and guidance.
Seeking out one of these groups
(your closest alanon meeting will probably prove beneficial
because =- recovery people are the most 'connected' people
I've ever witnessed!)
needs to become one of your commitments
to yourself
like buying the 'right' lotion or razor
because we can't get 'better' if we don't
take care of the problem right here and now.
I tried to go through my own 'discovery' alone
and it made me crazy.
I'd hate to see you go through that darkness alone.
Please.
Make time for the meeting.
I wish I'd have known then what I know now.
I'm glad you posted.
There's way more of us than you might think.