Originally Posted by
Florence After last night's fiasco: AH dropped flowers on the front porch, called to tell me how terrible it is being homeless and unemployed, and later, called back with actual apologies.
If only it took flowers to solve all the problems on this world.
Yes it should be terrible being homeless and unemployed, but his decisions took him there. He could go to a shelter or to family or to a motel or wherever. He could get a one year SOBER chip in AA. He could do what all unemployed people do, LOOK FOR A JOB, then be responsible enough to keep it. But all that actually takes effort and honesty from his part.
A sign of codependent behavior for me is when I give something away / help, time, energy - and I get nothing back. Or what I get back is stress, resentment.