Yeah that is emotional manipulation. And it worked because it has you now questioning what it is you are doing and how to help him realize he is loved.
That isn't our job as those who care about them. In my case, when things are going great between us, he pulls away from me. On what planet does that make sense? Then I figured out the riddle: The better it gets, the bigger the need for them to sabotage.
Oh well!
If he can't see it then that is about his own issues. Turning it on you, however, is kind of emotionally abusive. Because it will backfire on him. One day you will get fed up of his immaturity and end it.
Sad for them and exhausting for us. Don't play the game.