There's a section on this site with Friends and Family step studies. They come from the al-anon book Paths to Recovery. You might find them helpful!
Originally Posted by
SoberClean 
Wow, I've read some literature. the workbook I have is directed toward the alcoholic, but it is the same workbook that the alcoholics use, so my biggest struggle (as I am still struggling through step 1) is interpreting it so that I can apply the steps toward my situation. Finally with that phrase "could you just hand her over, into her higher powers hands?" I think I am beginning to understand. My light bulb just switched on
(((hugs)))
I haven't thought of a HP for a long time. but somehow it makes step 1 make sense.