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Old 05-07-2011, 06:22 PM
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Originally Posted by LaPinturaBella View Post
Here's a way to re-frame it. You met this man to get your sweet , precious children. That may have been the sole purpose. By all means grieve, it's healthy and necessary.

Now you have the opportunity to get the real love you deserve in a better package. HP does have it all planned and figured out for us. Hope this helps.
I couldn't agree more with this post. I find gratitude for my marriage, even as I realize how broken and toxic it is... For without it, I would have my precious babies! There are some great lessons learned. I have grown and evolved as a woman. I'm stronger, more confident, and at ease with myself. I'm aged... Like a fine wine?... Maybe cheese is more appropriate for this site!!!

As I walk through the process and my acceptance evolves, I have gradually developed some love and compassion back for my AH. I recognize his disease, and I am starting to forgive wrongs... But with those clear eyes, I see just how RIGHT divorcing him is FOR ME.

Give it time sweetteewalls... Have given any though to al-anon?
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