Welcome to SR and congradulations on your degree! Living with an addict, raising two children and obtaining a degree at the same time is quite the hurdle. It will only get easier when you start focusing on yourself, and your recovery. As you know living with an addict is like living on a roller coaster. A life with with chaos, broken promises, and financial despair. Sounds like your on the right track " you do not want to give up your sanity", you are becoming financially independent, and you have come to SR. Keep posting, there are many knowledgable people here that have been where you are.