Sweetteewalls... go through my old posts... I went through a very similiar interaction with my AH just a few weeks ago. All the same crap... I hate you, look what you're doing to us, you're destroying this family... and then, he took MY inventory. Rattled off a long list of my character flaws and shredded me.
It hurt... especially because there was some truth.
And what I learned was that my AH is not a safe person for me right now. He's got stuff he's dealing with, and right now, where he's at emotionally... I AM THE ENEMY. I'm the bad guy. He hurts, and he wants me to hurt too.
Yucky, yucky, yucky. And every time I engage with him, I get sucked into and I get hurt. So I limit my contact to protect me!!
Good for you for changing the phone and blocking him. You ARE WORTHY of love and respect!!