Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
If I couldn't hide it (I never was good at faking it) I'd be told what I already believed: that it was my fault
You are head and shoulders above where the sober adults in your young life were!!
This is what you can combat.
You already are allowing discussions of things that many families keep under wraps -- good for you!
You can send your children the message that
it ISN'T their fault, every time you think it's appropriate.
(I wouldn't want to constantly be bringing it up and talking about it; they'll get sick of it, but during those times you do...)
They
will believe you.