Wow, Buffalo66, thank you for sharing your story.
(((((((BobbyJ)))))))), besides the feeling the horror, pain and guilt radiating from your post, this section of Buffalo's post is very similar to what struck me in relation to your daughter's sharing:
Originally Posted by
Buffalo66 
She is healing, She is inviting you to join her in that.
When my mother came to me and made amends for her neglecting to see my pain as a cry for help, and for even openly blaming me for things, I took it lightly at that moment, almost tried to let her off easy, but the pain and hurt that was released from bondage in her words really unraveled for me in the months that followed, and it was a very healing thing for her to support ME. REALLY SUPPORT ME>
She finally felt safe enough to share some very uncomfortable, painful, scary information with you. That is amazing. BobbyJ, you did the best with what you had at the time. Please be as gentle with yourself as you will be with your daughter.