Originally Posted by
confusedandsad 
so this post was meant to be more about my relationship problems that can't be resolved yet and how sucky it is to not have him "be there" for me
So sorry you're going through this. I realized in my own relationship that my ABF will never be able to "be there" for me as I need him to be, as long as turning to the bottle for
his own comfort is always an option for him. We tried couple counseling with a marriage and family therapist with an addiction and substance abuse subspecialty, and my ABF was abstinent for 2 months, but without wanting to stop drinking FOR HIMSELF, he wont ever fully be in recovery.