Hi CN,
I recently left my ABF, much to his surprise. After waiting months and months for the promises of a "responsible, mature, healthy man" to come to fruition, I just gave up.
No wait, I didn't give up, I just redirected my faltering faith in him back into myself.
I was tired of trying to make things work, and doing all the compromising. I was tired of watching him try to get the best of both worlds, while I was struggling to figure out which one I could tolerate. I realized that it was not healthy for me, just as you have, and decided to put myself first for once. Good for you.
It is hard, and hurts alot. Many of us feel your pain. But deep down I know it is time to put my faith in me, and discover my ability to make myself happy. Only then will I be healthy enough to share my life with someone else.
hugs to you!
