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Old 05-01-2011, 02:05 PM
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Originally Posted by concernednurse View Post
I 100% agree. My ABF does all these things too (including the cat box), and it certainly doesn't make it any less painful. Thank you for this.
My RABF is a wonderful, caring and kind man who is actually ran restaurants (can he cook!), is from a great home and is very well educated, family man.... but got to the point of homelessness.. street living, bench snoozing kind.

It isn't that big of a leap to go from what someone is now to what they may become. The term 'functioning' can be quite misleading. It takes a few bad choices in behavior (due to drinking) to start the domino effect in a fairly short amount of time.

Whether you are there or not won't really determine if he hits a bottom. It may just delay the inevitable if he is on the course he is on now.

You are wise to not let it run you over so as sad as it is to miss him and leave, the disease in his life is the sadder part and turns great possibilities into 'what might have beens'.
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