you may not want to have to "compromise"...and you should not put what YOU want on hold just to please his wants....
when you feel you can process it, you might want to imagine what it feels like to meet someone out there who would have NO nasty trailing baggage and would put YOU first....someone you wouldn't have to drive around, someone without ANY DUIs...someone who has just 1-2 glasses of wine with dinner when HE cooks.
I know it sounds like I am describing an alien (for me too)...but i think this tribe of normal people exist somewhere...we just have to locate them.
take care of you andbe kind to yourself...find something to keep you busy and feel good the next few days if possible. You really deserve to not have this extra stress of his alcoholism.