I know what you mean about the friend of your XH. My exabf's best drinking buddy is in AA now, and he told me about all the times they did cocaine behind my back, after I'd already told exabf it was a dealbreaker.
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stella27 
Hearing that mutual friends of XH's and mine are doing something with him, and not me.
Learning from a friend of XHs that they used substances when they were together, while I have been suspicious for years, and now we are divorced, and it shouldn't matter. But the confirmation (unsolicited, I don't talk about him) triggered me.
Being lied to.
Being yelled at.
Being accused of having ulterior motives.
Ungrateful children.