I think one thing people need to consider is, what happens when the disease progresses? For as so many people say on this forum, Alcoholics get worse.
Many people have seen their spouses deteroriate.
Things may be tolerable now, but what happens when he starts experiencing tons of health problems, as the drinking inevitably leads to? Or becomes completely nonfunctioning?
A friend of mine in AA asked me about my exabf, "Do you really want to be there in 5 yrs when he possibly loses his job, or starts having health problems? Knowing you could've spent those 5 years looking for and maybe finding someone who could treat you the way you deserve to be treated?"
Originally Posted by
keepinon 
If he is coninually drinking, he is not in recovery.Do you want to live with an active alcohlic?That really is the question..it may not be horrendous, but hardly sounds fullfilling.If you are ok with living with active addiction, then this may be how things remain.It's really hard to have levels of trust and intimacy with someone in their disease, and it sounds like you would like these things (who wouldn't?)
Lots of the older women at my alanon meeting stayed with their actively drinking husbands..most of the younger ones don't..it can be done, to what level of stisfaction i am not sure..