If he is coninually drinking, he is not in recovery.Do you want to live with an active alcohlic?That really is the question..it may not be horrendous, but hardly sounds fullfilling.If you are ok with living with active addiction, then this may be how things remain.It's really hard to have levels of trust and intimacy with someone in their disease, and it sounds like you would like these things (who wouldn't?)
Lots of the older women at my alanon meeting stayed with their actively drinking husbands..most of the younger ones don't..it can be done, to what level of stisfaction i am not sure..