I can keep my serenity alot better if I stay out of the victim/judge circle. My therapist said to draw a circle- put victim on one side and judge on the other and step out of the circle. I am now aware of it when I get back in the circle. I am bad too at judging myself which my last 4th step revealed to me. A 4th step is a great way to get to know yourself. My sponser also says to have compassion for people not in recovery and my family of origin is not in recovery. I have to remember that. Thanks everyone for being here for me. We are not alone. We are all ONE.