Well, baby care always fell to me, even before AH was drinking. The kids look to Ah to buy them things(not necessary things mind you) This morning, it was handing each of the younger boys a cookie he had purchased.
I did talk to 8yo the other day, how he will probably be going to a new school next year, because we need to move out. He asked me if it was because of all the beer AH drinks, so yes, I know they pick up on it. he did understand that what went on the other day was because I was trying to keep him safe.