Sylvie66,
I've been banging my head against the wall for several weeks now. I've been suspicious of her drinking. I haven't looked or played detective for a long time because for me, I know what she is and I know she isn't improving.
Back when I first started posting here it was because I thought I was going crazy. I didn't know if I was really seeing what I was seeing. So I held out on my boundary for as long as I could and checking on things last night was something I needed to do for myself. I had to validate myself. It gave me peace to find what i found. I didn't like it but I felt better knowing that I was right and I think it's okay to know you're right sometimes.