I think our addicted loved ones live in this fantasy world where if they THINK it and SAY it , is just as good as having done it. My ah has lied so many times to me that I never believe a word he says and then he pulls the guilt card out when he is truthful and tries to make me feel like crap.
This is soooo true in my life.
My RAH seems to think that just thinking good thoughts is going to be enough.
Its been this way for years, and he is better, now, by far, but when he was drinking it was so awful.
BTW--Hes not going out with a woman from the meeting. He is WITH his woman from the meeting--her name is BOOZE