I feel like I probably should have come here a month ago or so when I appeared and posted a "here's the story". There's lots of things at play here-- this trial is kind of a nightmare (understatement of the year) but it kind of got the ball rolling for me in late Jan and got me seeing that the status quo HAD to change.
It isn't ideal right now but the new status quo is a lot better than it was a few months ago and after the trial the even newer status quo will be better still...
So, that's the story with the testifying thing...