I think we are all at different stages of recovery. I tried to hold on to my white picket fence, two rockers on the porch to grow old together in life, until I didn't want it anymore. Getting away became the goal instead of staying and trying to fix something that I couldn't fix or "love" away. It took me years. I hate to see someone hurting and I try to hurry the advice when I should not do that maybe. I mentioned an intervention in one friend's family and offended a family member who didn't want to do it. I stepped back from the situation. I really love SR but don't take all the advice I hear. I do appreciate everyone who in years past when I was in my "beehive of hell" trying to advise/help me . I read "let go or be dragged" one day and went damn I am being dragged. I don't take all the advice here but I do take alot of it. We are not alone....we are ALL ONE.