Alanon also does have that face to face, which also takes away from the anonymity of an online forum.
Many of these folks on SR can become a little tunnel visioned, and so can I, but...Its easy to lay it on someone when you are not face to face.
Maybe a break from the forum would be good for you for a couple of days.
I took a break last week.
I also took a break for a year, a while back, because I just needed to do some work without bouncing it around so much...just different tools at different times.
Hope you come back, do whats the next right thing for you