I think more that people (including myself) get very triggered or feel frustrated that they see where this MAY be headed if you don't address it. But you are. It just takes time.
The abuse portion is harder actually to overcome because it comes from some hardwired stuff he has or just anger issues he won't address. All you can do is what is best for yourself and your kids. He is a long way from seeing what this is doing to your family, if ever. It is sad for him, sad for your kids but it doesn't mean it can't get better.. it will... you seem like a pretty strong cookie.
I wanted to add that I say this because many, if not most women in your situation would NOT press charges for what he did. It was a clear sign that you do know it can't continue like it has been.
Last edited by Babyblue; 04-25-2011 at 06:57 PM.
Reason: other thought to add.. im full of thoughts!