by setting an example for your kids, I meant you are showing them how to be very passive...How would you feel if later on your daughter got involved with this same type of marriage or relationship? How would you feel if someone physically harmed her?
didn't you let him move back in with you last week by being manipulative? he doesn't give you an iota of respect.
I think compassion and empathy should be reserved for those who also practice it.....(I learned the hard way not to be my X's doormat)