Jds0401....
Those were just about the two most perfect posts I have EVER read about boundaries. Absolutely a gold star!! THANK YOU!!
For years, I mistook boundaries to be "rules" that I needed to establish to get my AH to see the light!! And so my early days in al-anon seemed to cause more problems than solve them
Progress, not perfection, thankfully.
My boundaries now are still "rules" but they are my rules... For me. My way of staying on task to get myself to the life I want and be the person I want to be. Someone I am proud of, who acts honorably and respectfully of others... Who doesn't get caught up in her emotions and sucked into drama. And as I become "aware" of things that trigger me to fall off course.. I sit back and determine if a new boundary is order, or if I already have one but have been lazy and supporting it!
Thanks for letting me share!
Shannon